THINGS NOT TO SAY TO A DARK SKINNED LADY

If you’ve ever told a black beauty she’s “pretty for a
dark skinned woman”, or even unknowingly said
something offensive, this is for you

“You’re Pretty for a dark skinned girl.” Photo Source:
jucyafrica


Uttering that comment is like offering someone
sugarcane and then taking it back from them mid chew.
There’s nothing sweet about that. The problem with
adding, “for a dark skinned woman” to a compliment is
you emphasize her otherness. What the above
compliment really sounds like is: “compared to other
dark skinned women, you’re cute but you’ve got nothing
on the gorgeous (light skinned) girls.
HINT: Be succinct. Simply state, “you’re beautiful”.


“Can we move to the shade? I don’t want to get dark.

Oh? We can certainly find you some shade as soon as
you stop throwing it. The sun isn’t the only thing that
burns, you know, your words can do that too.
What’s so bad about being dark skinned anyway? (Take
it from me, there’s no real way of answering that
question without sounding somewhat offensive so don’t
respond). Just find the shade you seek and pipe down.


“Why are you so dark?”

If such an ignorant comment is thrown at you, courteous
black beauty, respond with: “why are you asking?”
However, if it’s not the Sabbath, and you’re feeling bold,
feel free to retort: “why am I so dark? The question is,
why are you such an ass?” If talking isn’t your thing, I
humbly suggest you throw a cool side eye complete
with a slightly arched eyebrow.



“You’re the only dark skinned woman I would consider
dating.”

Yes, there are individuals out there who say such things.
Ladies, if this foolishness is directed at you, gather your
belongings and just take a long walk away from that
joker. As for the people who say such things, may all
the soups you make from today onwards lack taste even
when you add spices and salt.


“How do you stay so dark and comfortable?"

Juju, fool. Not a common question but one that was
asked of an acquaintance not too long ago. If you are
guilty of saying something similar to this, you need to
ask yourself: what would Jesus do (WWJD)? Actually,
just stop with the dark-skinned questions.
In short, ditch the disses and, if you absolutely must, be
brief when speaking to a dark skinned woman about her
skin tone.